Bereavement

Dormington's altar window
Dormington’s altar window

Preparing for a funeral is often stressful and when you are grieving, the last thing you want to deal is to deal with paperwork. Below are some resources that will help in the process, but you should find a funeral director a great help in all that needs to be done. Here are some local funeral directors:

Abbotsfield Funeral Directors www.abbotsfieldfunerals.co.uk

Bayley Bros  www,yourfuneraldirectors.co.uk

Cathedral Funeral Services www.cfsh.co.uk

Co-Operative Funeral Care www.co-operativefuneralservices.co.uk

Dawe Brothers www.dawebrothers.co.uk

SA Evans www.dignityfunerals.co.uk

Shayne Hogg www.shaynehoggfuneralservices.co.uk

 

Who plans the service?

The minister conducting the service will meet up with you (usually in your home) before the day itself.  This is a chance to discuss readings and hymns and other ways to tailor the service to reflect the life of your loved one. The service itself will be that used by the Church of England, and you can find information about this on the Church of England’s website.

http://www.churchofengland.org/weddings-baptisms-funerals/funerals.aspx

Does it have to be a church service?

No.  If there is a cremation, then often the funeral service is held at the crematorium alone.  However, often families like to have a service in church too.  If you’d rather have no church involvement at all, then your funeral director should be able to advise about humanist funerals and other options.

How much does it cost?

Church Service with Burial                                                £473

Church Service followed by Cremation                           £208

Burial on a separate occasion                                           £317

Burial of cremated remains                                               £151

Service at the crematorium                                               £182

There will also be other costs as appropriate – organist, verger and (in the cold weather) a contribution to the cost of church heating.  (Fees are reviewed annually and are correct as of 6th January 2017)

Who can be buried in the parish graveyards?

Anyone who lives in the parish is entitled to be buried in the graveyard in that parish but sometimes, because of family connections or past history, people who at the time of death live outside the parish can be laid to rest in the churchyard.

Can I place a memorial or gravestone in the churchyard?

Yes.  However, it is best to leave a twelve-month gap before erecting a full headstone after a burial while there is no need to wait to place a tablet onto a grave containing cremated remains.  Any memorial or headstone has to have approval before it is introduced into a graveyard. There are strict guidelines as to the size, lettering and materials that can be used which are produced by the Diocese.  You can see a copy of these guidelines here. at www.hereford.anglican.org/churchgoers/church_yard_regulations.aspx

While the stonemason will write to the Rector to gain approval for a memorial, the Rector can only approve stones that fall within the guidelines.  If the application is for something that is outside the regulations then the applicant must contact either the archdeacon, the Venerable Paddy Benson or the Diocesan Chancellor who has the final say.  Hereford’s Chancellor is His Hon. Judge Roger Kaye, Q.C. at 1 The Sanctuary, Westminster, London SW1P 3JT.